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Comment on Dear Birth Mother of My Daughter, by Laurie Darroch-Meekis by LaurieDM

LaurieDM — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 00:28:09 +0000

Sam,such anger.You misread.This was meant lovingly. I was saying was what I felt, and knowing how I would have felt in the same situation,sorrow at giving up a child, confusion, which she did too. I was not saying I was mad at her, I said at fleeting moments that anger crosses my mind because of my protective nature and the intense love for my child. These are thoughts that run through many adoptive parents minds. Amy, I actually DO know what her reasons were. She was neither a young teenager or a rape victim. I was not telling her how she felt. I was acknowledging the confusion and pain and thanking her, but she could have kept her. I was thanking her for making the decision to try and give my daughter a better life than she could give her.

Comment on Dear Ex-Fill-In-the-Blank, by Me by Mayatot

Mayatot — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 15:18:58 +0000

Maybe, u nid a closure and acceptance.

Comment on Dear Alcohol: By Miranda Myers by Erin Boatkicker

Erin Boatkicker — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 15:50:00 +0000

My mother is an alcoholic, coincidentally right around nine months sober as well. It’s nice to see the other side. I love my mother, and I can’t stand her, and I’m afraid for and of her. It’s nice, for me at least, to see the other side.

Comment on I Didn’t Know Any Better, by Amanda Barnes by Miriam Pia

Miriam Pia — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 14:06:15 +0000

When I was a child I was taught “Pets require responsibility”. I guess you “should have” taken your furry friend to the pound rather than just abandoning the animal. I have had pets and am aware that there is legitimate fear surrounding being able to afford to take good care of one. It sounds like you were a good friend to it until the abandonment. I don’t know why you reacted that way. I guess you’re not a Catholic; if you were a good Catholic you would have confessed this years ago and been forgiven. Remember, forgiveness doesn’t mean ‘its ok that you did’, forgiveness means – Neither I nor you nor God needs to ruin the rest of your life as a chronic punishment for your sin. Maybe donate to charity or something as well as being a good pet owner now, as penance.

Comment on Wish I Could Tell You, by Martha Conners (A Pen Name) by Miriam Pia

Miriam Pia — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 13:59:49 +0000

Oh my God. It is as much your ex boyfriend’s fault that he got you pregnant as it yours that you got pregnant. It is horribly wrong that his family was demonic, totally evil to you about it – they were mean and wrong about you and slandered you, and ignorant and mean: that’s what I meant by ‘demonic and evil’: I mean: ignorant and wrong and cruel to you.

It is true that the letter you wrote and the ways that you deceived the ex that there actually is a child of his out there even though you miscarried is immoral and wrong. Its good that you are aware of that and have written this apology.

It reads as if having the miscarriage may have been ‘a painful mercy’ but maybe it wasn’t, maybe its just another sad fact.

Comment on Dear Alcohol: By Miranda Myers by Donna Thacker

Donna Thacker — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 21:41:07 +0000

Such a powerful letter! I hope many, many people read this. I wish you the best on your one day at a time journey.

Comment on Dear Alcohol: By Miranda Myers by Cindy

Cindy — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 21:36:35 +0000

Thank you, Miranda, for this very powerful letter. I think there are a lot of fathers out there that this should be shared with. Mine never made it to 9 months sober…

Comment on I Didn’t Know Any Better, by Amanda Barnes by Deborah D

Deborah D — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 22:28:57 +0000

I had a hard time with this but I can honestly say I’m glad that, despite it being the wrong choice, you are honest enough to admit to what you did and feel remorse. There are so many out there who would do something like that for fun – not out of desperation. Sending lots of positive, healing energy your way. I hope you do see your furry friend on the rainbow bridge someday.

Comment on I Didn’t Know Any Better, by Amanda Barnes by Ray Mickol

Ray Mickol — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 21:37:19 +0000

Wow!! That tore me up.

Comment on Wish I Could Tell You, by Martha Conners (A Pen Name) by WindowShopping

WindowShopping — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 20:13:15 +0000

Sometimes the best we can do is to seek serenity and wisdom. It’s not a clean process, as you well know. You have regrets about choices you made when you were very young, scared, faced with choices you weren’t really prepared to make… But you’ve come to realize you were not the only one making choices, and you seem to have forgiven Matt for the choices he made. Wisdom and serenity are hard-won badges of difficult choices that don’t always turn out as we had hoped or planned. Trust and believe that everything works toward the good, even if we don’t understand how or why in the here and now.

You seem to have forgiven Matt. It’s time, now, to also forgive yourself. Let go of regret. Believe that whatever perceived flaws or errors you thought were woven into the tapestries of your lives were not really flaws at all, but have enhanced the beauty of the whole.